The idea of a human being separated into 3 sections was first introduced in our culture by Socrates and Plato. Believing that once our bodies die, our soul lives on. These three sections are defined as Body, Soul and Spirit.
Here is a picture to help define the differences and similarities between the three.
The soul is the seed to our emotions. What we experience through life will effect how we filter situations and then how we choose to handle them. Being transparent in this area is important, so that the pain and hurt can be healed. Somtimes it is a natural tendency to push the feelings down and tell yourself that you can handle it or you're being too sensitive. You will not be able to deny the triggers that will eventually effect you. Whether it be a song, words, picture or date on the calendar, it is possible that past events will have some influence over your emotions.
Your Soul and Spirit work hand in hand. If your soul has been hurt then your spirit will be altered in its relation to God and then affect your relationships with others. I know that it can be difficult to bring the past up. It seems so much more practical and easier to just "get over it".
But let me ask you...when you need to tear a bandaid off, you know that there is going to be a sting from the pulling... but you do it!
Ladies, how about when we wax our eyebrows? There is an end result we desire and that makes the pain worth it!
If you lift weights, there is pain involved with a desired purpose.
So, yes! You will be bringing up the pain and dealing with it for a desired purpose. That purpose is to not be controlled by those hurts or react to situations through your hurt. It will be for the purpose to see things with a clear and pure heart, to see others as they are and to love unconditionally. It is for the purpose that you live to your fullest potential with true peace and joy in all situations.
I understand that it is hard to forgive those who are selfish and in return hurt you. I understand how it may take a long while to forgive and let the pain be healed. I understand how heavy the burden can be when it is left up to you to pick up the pieces and carry a load that wasn't meant for you to carry. I understand the fear of ever finding security again. I understand...
But I also understand...That there is hope, there is forgiveness, that letting go of hatred and bitterness brings true freedom, that learning to love who you are (weakness and strengths) is vital in true acceptance, that fullfilling an emotion through a relationship is not only unhealthy for you but also for the other, that surrounding yourself with people who encourage you to move forward and dream again is vital, and that the only true identity is found when we realize how much we are loved by God and how He sees us.
This section is the raw, unedited version of my healing! I wore sunglasses for months. Put on a smile throughout the day for my kids then cried at night in bed alone. There is hope! You can start a new life. Let your soul be healed and your mind be transformed into the true way of life and love. I hope you will be encouraged and remember you are not alone!